Abusive Alien Parents

In fiction, aliens with advanced technologies and societies are oftentimes able to travel faster than light, blow up entire planets, and other such feats. However the Puny Earthlings have one major advantage over these nearly all-powerful beings: parental skills.

For some bizarre reason, many aliens, especially Starfish Aliens, seem to utterly lack skills in parenting. They will oftentimes give their offspring away, subject them to Training From Hell to make them "Space Spartans", or sometimes just eat them. Never mind the fact that most of the brainier animals on the planet all give some level of parental care, the idea never seems to sink into sentient races unlike humanity. There appears to be no logical reason for this, except to accentuate the differences between the aliens and humans, and give the humans in the story or reading the story a reason to dislike the aliens.

This trope isn't just limited to aliens and other interstellar beings. The trope also pops up in non-human races that are distinctly Terran in origin. This trope can lead to Freudian Excuses for the aliens' actions and may even lead a race to be Always Chaotic Evil.

Comic Books

 * The Technarchs, ladies and gentlemen. Best known as the race of Warlock of the New Mutants, every child of this creche-raised techno-organic species has to face their parent in single combat to the death. This really sucks for Warlock because his "mutation" means he has a conscience. He is the only member of his race that thinks this is messed up. Oh, and his father is the Technarch leader the Magus, the most powerful Technarch alive who is big enough rip apart stars. And Warlock was supposed to fight this guy by himself. No wonder he ran.

Film

 * Subverted and played straight with the prawns in District 9. While a good chunk of the prawns just raise their young and abandon them to fend for themselves in the grime of the eponymous District, Christopher Johnson is a very loving father to his son.
 * It's implied to be a mix between they just can't raise their young due to being so poor, and just not caring. But it is clear in Christopher's blog that many do care for their young.
 * It's also implied that the MNU are just flat out lying to the people of Earth, in order to make them seem less likable to the people of Earth, so no one bats an eye to how bad the prawns have been treated in the eponymous district.
 * The Martians in Mars Needs Moms! appear to have lost control of their young (maybe they stay in stasis until fully mature, and the latest batch opened up early? Or it's an all-kid planet? It could be a Peter Pan allegory since Wendy = mommy...) and have resorted to kidnapping Earth moms to fill in for them.
 * Possibly the Martians in Santa Claus Conquers the Martians. They plug their kids into learning machines to educate them, meaning the children never have any sort of fun, and are described as just being small adults. Then the parents wonder why they just sit there emotionlessly staring at the TV-equivalent all day. The parents do care about them and are seeking a cure. Having a fat man enter the room and laugh at them for thirty seconds seems to do the trick.

Literature

 * In the A Sound of Thunder spinoff books, Struth's people give their eggs to other sapient dinosaurs, and have them raise them instead.
 * The Green Men in Edgar Rice Burroughs Martian novels shuffle their eggs upon laying, in order to avoid emotional attachments to them, seeing as their society actively disdains love and kindness. Their society actually punishes parents who try to be nice to their adopted children.
 * From the same author, the Coripies of Pellucidar.
 * One of Tolkien's attempts to justify the Always Chaotic Evil-ness of orcs was essentially this trope incarnate.
 * The Yuuzhan Vong of the Star Wars Expanded Universe give their offspring to workers to be raised in caste-specific creches. It seems Yuuzhan Vong know perfectly well who their parents and children are - they just don't care. And then, it's repeatedly made clear that Domain (the Vong term for extended family or clan) loyalty is one of the pillars of their society. They may not be raised by their parents, but as a rule they're very devoted to their families as a whole.
 * The Taxxons in Animorphs are a race of giant centipedes who, if they so much as get a paper cut, they will be devoured alive by other Taxxons. Taxxon reproduction is not mentioned in the series, but given their habits one could probably make a pretty good assumption at the leading cause of death among Taxxon babies.
 * From the same series, the Yeerks. They reproduce via a three-slug orgy, after which they die, and from their mashed up ball of flesh comes many baby Yeerks, so that Yeerks never know their parents. (Interestingly, though, they do retain sibling relationships afterwards, even though they're all just a bunch of slugs swimming around in a pool.)
 * Except Visser Three, who goes out of his way to sabotage any attempt his twin makes at gaining any sort of power. But then again, he's Ax Crazy anyway, and not that good of a representative of his species.
 * The regul from C. J. Cherryh's Faded Sun Trilogy treat all children as expendable slaves; the survival rate to adulthood is less than one in a hundred, and most pre-adult regul are killed, often quite casually, by adults of their own kind.
 * The extremely alien aliens from David Brin's Uplift universe practice every variation of this trope. The underlying message appears to be that each species has evolved its own way of ensuring reproductive success. Galactic politics, while opportunistic at best, usually tends to shake out into the "have few offspring but invest as much in each as you can" species versus the "have lots of offspring and cull the weak" species when push comes to shove.
 * The Baby Eaters from Eliezer Yudkowsky's short story "Three Worlds Collide." They evolved from a species that lived in a resource-poor area and practiced cannibalism to survive, although they obviously don't eat all their babies, just enough to prevent starvation. They have evolved a culture where eating babies is considered the basis of all morality and the word for "to be ethical" is the same as the word for "to eat babies." The Super Happy People from the same story consider humans to be Abusive Alien Parents because we do not use genetic engineering to remove our children's ability to feel pain.
 * In Frank Herbert's "Con Sentiency" ("The Dosadi Experiment", "Whipping Star", etc), the Gowachin "tads" (an obvious derivation of "tadpole", ie, their youngsters) are pursued in their ponds by the adult Gowachin, with the very clear implication that the slow ones are eaten by the adults. This is said to form large parts of the Gowachin psyche.
 * The Monsters of Morley Manor has a brief sequence in which the narrator reanimates the corpse of an alien Child Soldier, and experiences all of that soldier's memories, beginning with a time he was left alone on a mountain overnight to toughen him up. (He also mentions, but refuses to describe further, a time when four children were left alone in a room with only enough water for two of them to survive until the day they were scheduled to be released.)

Live Action TV

 * The Doctor in Doctor Who has stated that Gallifreyan children are shipped off to the academy at age eight, and forced to look into an untempered time vortex. This is what reputedly created the Doctor's evil foil, the Master.
 * The Slitheen are also hinted to have this style of parenting in some episodes; with Blon Fel Fotch being threatened with death if she didn't continue the family tradition. It should be noted that the Slitheen are not a species, but a family. We have no idea how the average Raxacoricofallapatorian parent treats their kids.
 * In Star Trek: Voyager a reptilian Delta Quadrant race seems to abandon its young on a planet with no apparent caretakers. While the parent does come to check up on it, it was still left unguarded in a cave.
 * Subversion: another race seems to do something similar, but in reality
 * The Changelings sent Odo and many others like him out into space as new-made infants, without much if any concern over what might happen to them. Although this was supposedly done as an experiment to see what cultural values the group of infants would absorb in being raised by alien species, as a way of learning about these species before making official contact.
 * Apparently, Elim Garak's father, Enabran Tain, used to lock him in a closet as punishment. Probably typical Cardassian discipline, but to humans it borders on neglect, especially considering that Tain didn't even acknowledge that Garak was his son. And people wonder why Garak is claustrophobic AND has no concept of truth...
 * Not necessarily species-wide, but in 2009's V,

Tabletop Games

 * The Drow in Dungeons and Dragons, punished like crazy when young to make them paranoid, cunning, and cruel. In fact the wholesale treachery and slaughter inherent in their race has gotten to the point where the only reason they survive is because their batshit insane goddess, Lolth, has willed it.
 * The Illithid mind flayers begin their lives as tadpole like larvae living in the pool containing the Illithit Elder Brain. The Brain excretes material that the larvae eat, but will also attempt to catch and eat any larvae it can. Only a very small percentage of the larvae reach the stage where they can become full-grown Illithids. And if the full-grown Illithid avoids getting itself killed by an adventurer or something, its brain will be eaten by the Elder Brain anyway. It gets them coming and going.
 * Beholders will select a few of the newborn Beholders that look most like themselves and eat the rest. They don't take care of the remaining ones either, just give them enough time to get away from them.
 * Sahuagin seal up their hatchlings in nesting chambers, then don't let them out until the strong ones have eaten all their weaker siblings. If a hatchling survives, but emerges with a missing limb or other serious injury, the parents eat it.
 * The Elder-Spawn in GURPS: Dungeon Fantasy have one parent that is an Unspeakable Madness from Beyond Reality and another that's insane.
 * Inverted byTeenagers From Outer Space: there, there was no rebellious teenage culture until Earth was found.

Web Comics

 * Sam's species in Freefall has elements of this, but its more or less justified as members of his species die after reproduction, like Earth octopi. Other members of the species then choose from the offspring, which is said to be like "picking out puppies."
 * In Alien Dice the Rishan tend to be abusive towards their children (sometimes leading to Parental Abandonment). Justified (?) because as slaves, Rishan were not allowed to raise their children, so many didn't have parents to learn proper parenting techniques from.
 * Some of Homestuck's trolls play this trope straight - each troll on birth is adopted by a lusus naturae, which acts as their custodian. Some are colossal morons. The standout example is Vriska's lusus, which is a spider larger than her house that feeds on young trolls.
 * Which is nothing compared to Feferi's lusus, an Eldritch Abomination at least seven miles long that requiures other lusus to feed, and
 * Also trolls are not precisely adopted at birth by a lusus; first they have to pass a series of dangerous trials. It's only the kids who manage to survive long enough to pupate from larva to humanoid sub-adult and then get out of the brooding caverns that get any kind of parenting at all.
 * Adult trolls are even worse. Adult trolls will kill younger trolls because they might be a threat to them someday. The only reason Feferi avoided being targeted by the current Troll monarch is because her Eldritch Abomination of a surrogate mommy could kill said monarch (and every other troll in the galaxy) in an instant if provoked.
 * Karkat's crab-like lusus isn't as murderous as Vriska's but it's pretty mean too. Karkat has to fight it every time it gets pissed off which is often.

Western Animation
"Leela: I hope you'll always think of me as your mom.
 * In one episode of Ben 10, Grampa Max's psychic lizard alien girlfriend (It Makes Sense in Context) comes to Earth, and is confused by human parental habits. Apparently, on her planet children are left to fend for themselves as soon as they are born.
 * In Futurama, the people of Omicron Persei VIII leave their children undefended on alien planets with nothing to indicate there are sentient beings down there, and then act surprised when aliens come and eat them. They are justifiably angry when they find out that people are doing so, but no one noticed for months that people were coming to the planet and eating the kids. Why weren't there any early detection systems or defence systems?

Jrr: When my species grows up, we eat our moms."


 * There is a "Nanny-Cam Satellite" that takes video of Leela eating the first Popplers. This implies that the camera was there to half-assedly monitor whoever was supposed to watch the kids. It seems to be a case of "too busy to care" and "phony reassurance through technology". When you consider that all Omicronians do is watch thousand-year-old Earth TV and invade Earth, combined with the parental cannibalism...
 * In Fear of a Bot Planet, Zoidberg orders "one of your young on a roll." The kiosk attendant's response? "We're out of rolls".
 * The Decapodeans are a weird subversion: one episode establishes that parents die while mating, yet Zoidberg repeatedly alludes to being raised in a nuclear family and having various living relatives.
 * Flashbacks to his childhood have the woman raising him mention his parents "rolling over in their graves" at one point. They're clearly dead.
 * He also once mentions being the child of three, indicating that Decapod 10 may have a sort of surragate parent thing going on.
 * And the only relatives he mentions are siblings, aunts, and uncles, never parents or grandparents.
 * It actually all makes sense when you think about it, and the Decapodians aren't particularly abusive at all- many members of the species choose to remain celibate, while the ones that reproduce produce lots of young that are adopted by the celibate members of the species, which form their own family units that don't necessarily adhere to a human idea of relationships.
 * Don't even need to involve the celibate to explain it. They just have kids too young for the mating, but old enough to take care of kids-- think babysitters. There's also the bit in the fountain of youth episode where we find out that one of their larval stages is a sort of sea sponge/coral thing from which multiple adults- including Zoidberg's brother Norm- bud off.
 * Even split on Kif's species; they go though a period as a tadpole, swimming unsupervised in a primordial swamp, and then are implied to have a childhood where they are raised by their parents in a family environment ten years later, conveniently allowing Kif and Amy to delay settling down by another decade.
 * Invader Zim: "I love you, cold, unfeeling robot arm!"