I Can Change My Beloved/Quotes

"What you don't want is a situation where there is a hidden agenda on either or both sides. Everything should be up front and on the table... like with the Hemlock/Roderick marriage.

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It's vital. Too many people marry the person they think their partner will become. They have some sort of idea that a marriage ceremony is somehow magical. That it will eliminate

all the dubious traits and habits their partner had when they were single. That's about as unrealistic as if you had expected Aahz to stop being a money-grubber or to shed his temper

just because you signed on as an apprentice. Anyway, when their partner keeps right on being the person he or she has been all along, they feel hurt and betrayed. Since they believe

that there should have been a change, the only conclusion they can reach is that their love wasn't enough to trigger it... or, more likely, that there's something wrong with their partner.

That's when marriages start getting bloody. At least with Queen Hemlock's proposal, nobody's kidding anybody about what's going to happen."

- Chumley, Sweet Myth-Tery of Life