Sleeping Beauty/Headscratchers

Disney version

 * Why didn't they just wait until after her 16th birthday to reveal Aurora's identity? We could have avoided this whole mess if they'd just waited until then.
 * Maybe it was something her parents demanded because they betrothed her at birth. Chances are they had to pull her in ASAP because she met a guy in the woods and probably would have eloped because during those times, being 16 would have meant that she could technically do that.
 * A troper on the Fridge Logic page suggested that Malificent's magic, being more powerful than that of the good fairies, overruled everyones common sense and forced the events to play out as they did.
 * The three fairies lock themselves into a lantern to discuss their plans. This is so Malificent can't overhear. Then they reveal the whole plan to the king and queen, out in the open. What, Maleficent didn't overhear that?
 * It's never specified where they told the King and Queen. Or how.
 * Why couldn't Merryweather turn Malecifent into a toad anyway? Flora and Fauna say that their magic can only bring happiness, but turning her into a toad would've made Merryweather happy, and probably a lot of other people, too.
 * Because Maleficent is magical too, and much more powerful than them. She'd probably be not only able to turn herself back to normal, but to also return the favor considerably.
 * The fairies seemed to have a pretty hard time cooking and sewing. Not that those things are effortlessly easy, but they'd been living like mortals for 16 years and taking care of a kid. Shouldn't one of those have come up by now?
 * The implication is that Merryweather has been doing the cooking and sewing this whole time (and has to be somewhat competent or Briar Rose would be dead by now), and that Fauna is directly stated to have tried baking for the first time. It is also possible that Fauna is usually the family cook and Flora is the family seamstress. The only reason Merryweather uses her powers to get the cleaning done is because it is tedious.
 * It is also likely Rose is living off those berries they keep sending her off for.