Kitty Norville/Fridge

Fridge Horror

 * In the first Kitty Norville book, Kitty mentions during a make-out session with  that she hasn't had sex with a normal human since contracting lycanthropy. During a flashback shortly thereafter, it's strongly implied that , after which she was almost immediately attacked and infected by Zan. As far as other lycanthropes goes, there's exactly one named character that she has a healthy relationship with, and he's a gay man. Her relationship with Carl resembles nothing so much as the attentions of an Abusive Father, and she takes a "close your eyes and wait until it's over" attitude about it. In short, this woman has never had a sexual encounter to which she consented. Worse? Her encounter with Zan in chapter 4 suggests that, practically speaking, anyone in the pack can have her whenever Carl, Meg, and T.J. are absent.
 * Realizing this makes it all the more heartwarming when.
 * As for the pack under Carl, my impression of her attitude wasn't a "close your eyes and wait until it's over" thing so much as Happiness in Slavery, until the events of the first book made her realize she could do better. Also, I don't remember the "anyone can have her" implication; Carl, Meg, and T.J. were quite possibly never all absent, and even if they were, it wouldn't have been pure anarchy until they got back. She would have showed her belly in the submissive wolf sense, but not literally. So overall, yes, she was being abused and very lacking in healthy relationships in her life thus far, but my reading of the first novel wasn't quite as horrifying as yours.